a hurt and confused new member.

What do you do when the person you love most in the world just does not understand what you are going through? What do you do when she gets mad at you because of some little thing that didn't get done, because you forgot about it? Especially when, despite my illness, I'm the one who works, and she is a stay-at-home-mom.

I could give more details but I don't want to bore you to tears. I'm just very hurt that the first words out of my wife's mouth this morning was not "happy new year" or "i love you", but about this. Especially when she forgets things, I just ignore it and do it myself... my philosophy is that no one is perfect and that I should just ignore stupid little things, instead of making them bigger than what they really are.

I hope this makes sense at all. My mind is very foggy right now. I was in INCREDIBLE pain yesterday and that's why this little thing did not get done.

Welcome to the site. Have you tried talking to her and tell her that you were in alot of pain thats why you didn't remember. Just a thought.

I don't know any men with fibro, unless it is me brother and he just won't admit it. He is in chronic pain all the time. As for your situation, women are usually more understanding than what you say your wife is like, but obviously yours doesn't understand what you're going through at all. Have you been diagnosed by a Dr.? was she there? Has she read anything about Fibro? If you could take her to a Dr.s appointment so that third person can explain it to her.
My husband went with my to a specialist but didn't want to go in the room, he wanted to stay in the waiting room and read an article he had started, said he didn't understand medical stuff. Also expects me to still do householld chores and cook. He has stepped up some but, does not have the motivation to do anything around the house. He will not read anything on the internet or any of my books. He is concerned about my health, but if I'm not screaming, then I must be fine.
Sorry to go off onmy own woes. I hope and I will pray that your wife starts learning something about what you're going through. I know that sometimes the spouse just doesn't want to hear that the "status quo" has changed in your life and realtionship. I will also pray for your strength to keep gettng up and working everyday. God bless, Kim